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Jeanine Kitchel's avatar

Friendships really do morph in and out. When moving to Mexico we were lucky b/c Quintana Roo was the new "It" spot in MX and many people from CDMX and other cities were streaming there to make their mark. Our neighbor, BFF, and Mex mentor, a former CDMX escapee, explained that it was like the Wild West in US. Those early days when everyone thought they could make a bundle on this unbridled paradise (and some did). We came to that unpopulated barely a state of Mexico place bc we loved the romance and wildness of it and the small fishing village we bought land in was relatively unknown, not even a road sign, and only 30km from Cancun. We founded a bookstore and that helped so much in making friendships and also that the town was so small, everyone kinda bonded with everyone else. I do realize making friends after work is done, kids are grown, etc etc is no mean feat. When young we fall into so many friendships, we're overloaded. Now as I age and friends have passed, I know it's not a bottomless cup. So those who are still around, to cherish more, or if they have outlived their lifespan (and yes, that too can happen) to say au revoir, or adios rather. The language thing in a foreign clime can be an issue, but in MX and especially this area, Riv-Maya, formerly called Tulum Corridor, so many locals wanted to learn English as we wanted to learn Spanish--so a good win win. Anyhow, it does sound that you have made amends with your feelings on friendship--the old adage, some are silver, some are gold. Carry on, and hold tight to those you have. Good post!

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Sarah's avatar

Well, now I have to watch Will & Harper because that sounds EPIC and lovely, and it will no doubt make me want to do more road trips with you. Being in your cobwebby-knowledge friends circle is the single biggest stroke of magic/luck I've ever had, in my life.

Yesterday I went to Cloud 9 for some brekky, and as I sat there, for some reason I remembered that toward the end of your visit post Jon's death, you suddenly made a comment about how deeply satisfying certain types of boogers are, and it was something I've thought many times but would never have thought anyone ELSE would get. But of course, you did. OF COURSE YOU DID.

Cobwebs and boogers forever. How fucking lucky we are!!! XO

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