I cannot tell you how many times I've been through this (OK, ok its only been 3 times) but the emotional toll is never to be discounted. The real ugly truth is, unless you've been there, its hard to understand. My Dads mom Died when I was in China, my mom was in a massive car accident (She survived thankfully, but it still had an emotional toll) when I moved to a new city in China, and currently my grandmother on my moms side isn't doing so hot. My folks have been so kind and supportive like yours in me asking 'Do I need to come home?' and they have been honest and kind in telling me I do and or I don't. It's so hard to feel a world away (And to some extent really be a world away) and feel like you are there. However, you are doing what you need to do, whatever phrasing you choose to use for that. Your following God's will, your where you are supposed to be, you are following your dream; whatever it is, you are doing what you are meant to be doing. Find comfort in that, and know that you're doing what you are needing to do. I'm here if you ever want to talk. I get it, I really, really do.
I’m so sorry to hear this of your mom and you feeling guilty honey! Please don’t feel guilty you and Bruce had planned to go so just keep busy and trust God to watch over her as He always has! My prayers are for your mom and dad as they go thru this here! Daddy is right again, don’t feel guilty, this is life, he said!
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Nobody knows what the future holds. A couple of things my dad always said was “You pays your money and you takes your chances. Also you can always change your mind, unless you just jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge.” I’ve been planning on moving abroad for the past 4 years. My parents are in their 90’s and up until this year we’re in fairly good health. My father passed 2 weeks ago. My mom won’t be far behind him. I’m sad. However I feel fortunate to have had them so long and fortunate that next year, when my husband and I move, I won’t be worried about my parents. A little crazy I know. But trying to keep an open heart about what life brings.
3 For everything there is a season, and a time for every [a]purpose under heaven: 2 a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3 a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6 a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 a time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.
You are a lovely kind person, easy to read. I am sorry to hear about your mom. Yes, these things, we call life, happen. It is your dad who set you free, set you straight, etc.
You sure are purty in that last photo with your mom.
Yes, I know the situation well. I too lived through something similar. But hey! Your parents raised you to be free and independent, right? They gave you wings to fly. And the confidence that goes with it.
I hope your mom's health improves. It sounds like she's surrounded by love, both near and far.
Wow, this is tough stuff. I'm so sorry to hear more information about your Mom (I only got a little info from one of our coffee meet-ups). I hope she is doing better now. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful father and it's so loving that he practically read your mind about your guilt - and gave you some comfort. Hope you are doing OK. Be kind to yourself; you and your Mother are in my thoughts.
Ladonna,
I cannot tell you how many times I've been through this (OK, ok its only been 3 times) but the emotional toll is never to be discounted. The real ugly truth is, unless you've been there, its hard to understand. My Dads mom Died when I was in China, my mom was in a massive car accident (She survived thankfully, but it still had an emotional toll) when I moved to a new city in China, and currently my grandmother on my moms side isn't doing so hot. My folks have been so kind and supportive like yours in me asking 'Do I need to come home?' and they have been honest and kind in telling me I do and or I don't. It's so hard to feel a world away (And to some extent really be a world away) and feel like you are there. However, you are doing what you need to do, whatever phrasing you choose to use for that. Your following God's will, your where you are supposed to be, you are following your dream; whatever it is, you are doing what you are meant to be doing. Find comfort in that, and know that you're doing what you are needing to do. I'm here if you ever want to talk. I get it, I really, really do.
You're fellow world traveller,
Adrienne
You and your family are in my thoughts…..
I’m so sorry to hear this of your mom and you feeling guilty honey! Please don’t feel guilty you and Bruce had planned to go so just keep busy and trust God to watch over her as He always has! My prayers are for your mom and dad as they go thru this here! Daddy is right again, don’t feel guilty, this is life, he said!
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I’m so sorry you are going through this. Nobody knows what the future holds. A couple of things my dad always said was “You pays your money and you takes your chances. Also you can always change your mind, unless you just jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge.” I’ve been planning on moving abroad for the past 4 years. My parents are in their 90’s and up until this year we’re in fairly good health. My father passed 2 weeks ago. My mom won’t be far behind him. I’m sad. However I feel fortunate to have had them so long and fortunate that next year, when my husband and I move, I won’t be worried about my parents. A little crazy I know. But trying to keep an open heart about what life brings.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
American Standard Version
3 For everything there is a season, and a time for every [a]purpose under heaven: 2 a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3 a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6 a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 a time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.
This is your time
You are a lovely kind person, easy to read. I am sorry to hear about your mom. Yes, these things, we call life, happen. It is your dad who set you free, set you straight, etc.
So very sorry for your Mom, Dad and everyone in your family especially you.
It hits close to home for us as we are close in age to your parents. In our prayers.
You sure are purty in that last photo with your mom.
Yes, I know the situation well. I too lived through something similar. But hey! Your parents raised you to be free and independent, right? They gave you wings to fly. And the confidence that goes with it.
I hope your mom's health improves. It sounds like she's surrounded by love, both near and far.
Wow, this is tough stuff. I'm so sorry to hear more information about your Mom (I only got a little info from one of our coffee meet-ups). I hope she is doing better now. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful father and it's so loving that he practically read your mind about your guilt - and gave you some comfort. Hope you are doing OK. Be kind to yourself; you and your Mother are in my thoughts.